69 thoughts on “Stay at home moms #sahm #toxicmasculinity”
“yeah staying at home is super easy, stay-at-home moms are just being whiny babies about it being a job. hm? no I don’t have kids. I’ve never seen a human woman in my life.”
this, and also… dudes like him say it’s a privilege but ALSO that it’s a woman’s purpose, role, and obligation in life…. so which is it? it can’t be an obligation AND a privilege. but that type isn’t known for their consistent logic. ๐คฃ
So true! They donโt know how much chaos a regular kids can bring. And on top of that you have to take care of a house and teach them and go through the emotional rollercoaster throughout the day. ๐
@T_P_W and Pups! and then just when the last episode of ๐คฎ from the second kid to catch it is cleaned upโฆ BAM! He gets it! And now has to take care of those kids who are all energetic and healthy while heโs trapped in the bathroom
yep. it’s always the people saying parenting is so easy who parent exactly like that. they don’t see it as a journey of nurturing and adjusting your own parenting according to the situation. they think it’s sitting down on the couch with a beer and shooing the kid away when they enter the room because that’s what those kinds of dads do when they get home ๐คทโโ๏ธ
For me, it was really hard. I’m a single mom w a completely absent father. They’re grown now. It was very hard but I wouldn’t change it. It’s not about being easy, it’s about not missing out on their milestones, etc. When I worked, It was heart breaking to be away. But, most importantly, it was soooo much easier to punch In and out then to be home with two under two. So, for some it may not be hard, but it’s definitely harder then going to work everyday and that’s it
โ@Sara Sperber What this guy in the video says is so ironic … I can only assume he is highlighting why no one will have kids with him… He is choosing ignorance. I believe what you did was very, very hard. I am lucky enough that my husband and I still get along, we have 3, one of whom it’s looking like will have ongoing special needs, and it’s hard with both of us.
Clinical and forensic psychologist here. Hate to be that guy and you’re probably being hyperbolic– there’s nothing that demonstrates psychopathy. If anything he merely comes across as a little ignorant.
@piccolo the funniest part is him equating four months of unemployment to the experience of being a parent. Ignorant yes and maybe some comprehension issues.
Props to all the stay at home moms and dads out there that keep the home together and don’t raise their children like they’re a goldfish like that man’s implying he would.
I literally just heard a Reddit story this morning about a breadwinner wife with a husband saying being a stay at home dad is the easiest job in the world. Idk if itโs the same guy tho, she said he was out of work 3 years not 4 months.
But if it is the same guy then his wife was taking over when she got home from work so he could take a break, and they split chores so she was still doing about 40% of the work at home + her actual job. So she was like โsince you think itโs so easy then Iโll stop helping and you can get the full experienceโ and he was like โpsh whatever.โ Ofc he couldnโt handle it and 2 weeks later instead of apologizing and realizing he was wrong he confronted her saying he felt invisible and under appreciated and that she shouldโve been more supportive of him. Theyโre gonna try marriage counseling but theyโll probably get divorced.
Even if itโs not the same guy I can see his story going similarly ๐ฌ
Or he was well behaved children. Like I disagree with his premise that a SAHM isn’t difficult but also acknowledge for some families it isn’t hard at all.
Heโs clearly not a father. I re-watched it and listened to his wording and realized it was clear he meant other than what he did, which was stay around the house and do nothing but pick up after himself, the only other things SAHMs do is โwatch your kidโ
@Michael Capeit isn’t difficult relative to what a guy that looks like that does though, like yeah office work probably is easier but hard manual labor for 8 hours straight?
@DoomSlugeverything a parent does for a kid is included in watching your kid, I’ll give you a pass on it because you’re probably from somewhere that that isn’t the context of that wording
Unlike any other job with lunch breaks & vacations, It’s a 24/7 job! If they are sick at night, you’re up with them! And you still have to get up in the morning & take care of the little ones! Cook, clean & interact with your kids. It’s not easy. I’ve done it. Props to you Mama!
I donโt get a lunch break โฆ. I clock out and I still gotta work – I just donโt have the luxury of doing it from my home like you youโre spoiled I wish I could take a dump or get something from the fridge at work!
@art heaux And they never have doctor’s appointments, sports practice, recitals, PTA meetings, trips to the park or playground that take time or effort. Most kids cook for themselves and then wash the dishes afterward so he definitely knows what he’s talking about. ๐๐คฃ๐คฃ๐คฃ
If you ever think moms donโt work hard volunteer to help set up at your next family function. The set up, the planning, the cooking, the love and hospitality. Stay at home moms are the cornerstones of the Family Unit.
So I have done it and taken care of children. Its easy once you get past potty training them however we have discipline in my family (including main and branch families). You start doing chores as soon as you can and you clean up after yourself. By 8 we did the home chores after school.
Sounds like bad parenting or mentally incapable children.
Not even stay at home moms. Just moms period. My Mom did ALL OF THAT and held down a full time job. And because Iโm a Mom now I can honestly say working moms have it much harder. Iโve done both rolls
Being a stay at home mom is hard work but it’s not a privilege. It’s an HONOR! To be able to be these little people into this world and raise them, take care of them, and make them the best people you can is all worth it!
You probably have a relative or two who helps you. A lot of single moms donโt have that. Thatโs if you even have a kid or kids full time. Wouldnโt be the first time a single dad who only visits with his kids and barely takes care of himself felt the need to say how โEASYโ being a parent and taking care of a household is. ๐
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“yeah staying at home is super easy, stay-at-home moms are just being whiny babies about it being a job. hm? no I don’t have kids. I’ve never seen a human woman in my life.”
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LMAOOO hit the nail on the head ๐
this, and also… dudes like him say it’s a privilege but ALSO that it’s a woman’s purpose, role, and obligation in life…. so which is it? it can’t be an obligation AND a privilege. but that type isn’t known for their consistent logic. ๐คฃ
It is easy though .
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That man has never interacted with a child in his life and it shows.
Let’s see how well he does with two kids with the stomach flu. Ten bucks says he calls his mommy to do it for him.
So true! They donโt know how much chaos a regular kids can bring. And on top of that you have to take care of a house and teach them and go through the emotional rollercoaster throughout the day. ๐
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Frankly, I hope he never does.
@T_P_W and Pups! and then just when the last episode of ๐คฎ from the second kid to catch it is cleaned upโฆ BAM! He gets it! And now has to take care of those kids who are all energetic and healthy while heโs trapped in the bathroom
he seems like the type to yell at his kid to shut up and leave him alone multiple times a day
Ye that checks out
Guaranteed
Yep. Then his kids grow up fearing him and knowing that if they want to be made fun of for any mistake they make, their dad is there.
The guy will age and wonder why his grown kids are so distant and why he hears third-hand about new developments in his kids’ lives.
And he will just never get it.
yep. it’s always the people saying parenting is so easy who parent exactly like that. they don’t see it as a journey of nurturing and adjusting your own parenting according to the situation. they think it’s sitting down on the couch with a beer and shooing the kid away when they enter the room because that’s what those kinds of dads do when they get home ๐คทโโ๏ธ
Sounds like hes a provider!
The only child he’s ever taken care of is himself.
DANG
this should be pinned ๐ญ
And we should be proud
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I agree ๐ ๐ฏ
โBeing a stay at home mom is super easy. I would know because I, an adult man without children, spent 4 months at home when I was firedโ
That Part ๐ฏ
For me, it was really hard. I’m a single mom w a completely absent father. They’re grown now. It was very hard but I wouldn’t change it. It’s not about being easy, it’s about not missing out on their milestones, etc. When I worked, It was heart breaking to be away. But, most importantly, it was soooo much easier to punch In and out then to be home with two under two. So, for some it may not be hard, but it’s definitely harder then going to work everyday and that’s it
โ@Sara Sperber What this guy in the video says is so ironic … I can only assume he is highlighting why no one will have kids with him… He is choosing ignorance. I believe what you did was very, very hard. I am lucky enough that my husband and I still get along, we have 3, one of whom it’s looking like will have ongoing special needs, and it’s hard with both of us.
No wonder he got fired with that kind of personality.
Considering he himself is a child, I think it’s pretty comparable
Bro doesnt know the difference between being unemployed and being a parent ๐คฃ
Mans a psychopath
Lmfao great assessment actually
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Clinical and forensic psychologist here. Hate to be that guy and you’re probably being hyperbolic– there’s nothing that demonstrates psychopathy. If anything he merely comes across as a little ignorant.
@piccolo the funniest part is him equating four months of unemployment to the experience of being a parent. Ignorant yes and maybe some comprehension issues.
Props to all the stay at home moms and dads out there that keep the home together and don’t raise their children like they’re a goldfish like that man’s implying he would.
Goldfish can live a very long time, most people just don’t research them before getting one. They require a lot of space
Agreed a lot of opinions come from people who aren’t living in reality
I literally just heard a Reddit story this morning about a breadwinner wife with a husband saying being a stay at home dad is the easiest job in the world. Idk if itโs the same guy tho, she said he was out of work 3 years not 4 months.
But if it is the same guy then his wife was taking over when she got home from work so he could take a break, and they split chores so she was still doing about 40% of the work at home + her actual job. So she was like โsince you think itโs so easy then Iโll stop helping and you can get the full experienceโ and he was like โpsh whatever.โ Ofc he couldnโt handle it and 2 weeks later instead of apologizing and realizing he was wrong he confronted her saying he felt invisible and under appreciated and that she shouldโve been more supportive of him. Theyโre gonna try marriage counseling but theyโll probably get divorced.
Even if itโs not the same guy I can see his story going similarly ๐ฌ
If he is a dad he’s doing it wrong. That’s called neglect.
Or he was well behaved children. Like I disagree with his premise that a SAHM isn’t difficult but also acknowledge for some families it isn’t hard at all.
Heโs clearly not a father. I re-watched it and listened to his wording and realized it was clear he meant other than what he did, which was stay around the house and do nothing but pick up after himself, the only other things SAHMs do is โwatch your kidโ
@Michael Capeit isn’t difficult relative to what a guy that looks like that does though, like yeah office work probably is easier but hard manual labor for 8 hours straight?
@DoomSlugeverything a parent does for a kid is included in watching your kid, I’ll give you a pass on it because you’re probably from somewhere that that isn’t the context of that wording
@Stvy14 depends on the children. Some people prefer physical difficulty compared to mental difficulty.
As a stay home Mom, I donโt even have a lunch break compared to regular employee.
Unlike any other job with lunch breaks & vacations, It’s a 24/7 job! If they are sick at night, you’re up with them! And you still have to get up in the morning & take care of the little ones! Cook, clean & interact with your kids. It’s not easy. I’ve done it. Props to you Mama!
I donโt get a lunch break โฆ. I clock out and I still gotta work – I just donโt have the luxury of doing it from my home like you youโre spoiled I wish I could take a dump or get something from the fridge at work!
Itโs a mothers right to raise her own children not a privilege.
Being a parent is more than watching your kid. You have to raise them and teach them how to be a good person.
Parenting is hard only for those that are doing it right.
Well said. Very well said.
His logic checks out because once you clean the house, the children will always make sure it stays clean.
Oh man you just made me spray my coffee everywhere. On ๐Point!!
Right!? And kids are known for staying out of the cupboards and the fridge! Or anywhere they donโt belong. Heโs spitting facts. ๐
@art heaux And they never have doctor’s appointments, sports practice, recitals, PTA meetings, trips to the park or playground that take time or effort. Most kids cook for themselves and then wash the dishes afterward so he definitely knows what he’s talking about. ๐๐คฃ๐คฃ๐คฃ
If you ever think moms donโt work hard volunteer to help set up at your next family function. The set up, the planning, the cooking, the love and hospitality. Stay at home moms are the cornerstones of the Family Unit.
So I have done it and taken care of children. Its easy once you get past potty training them however we have discipline in my family (including main and branch families). You start doing chores as soon as you can and you clean up after yourself. By 8 we did the home chores after school.
Sounds like bad parenting or mentally incapable children.
@Aaron Montgomery Iโm not just taking about raising children, Iโm talking about making a house a home and bringing the family closer together.
FUCKING BRILLIANT!
Not even stay at home moms. Just moms period. My Mom did ALL OF THAT and held down a full time job. And because Iโm a Mom now I can honestly say working moms have it much harder. Iโve done both rolls
Being a stay at home mom is hard work but it’s not a privilege. It’s an HONOR! To be able to be these little people into this world and raise them, take care of them, and make them the best people you can is all worth it!
Laughs in homeschooling mom. Oh bless this mans heart. The trenches are really deep out here.
Iโm a single dad. The home and children part is the easiest part of my life.
Me when I lie
@art heaux What do you think makes it so difficult?
You probably have a relative or two who helps you. A lot of single moms donโt have that. Thatโs if you even have a kid or kids full time. Wouldnโt be the first time a single dad who only visits with his kids and barely takes care of himself felt the need to say how โEASYโ being a parent and taking care of a household is. ๐
He was taught since growing up that a womanโs job is โbarefoot and pregnantโ.
Thank you for your sharing. I am worried that I lack creative ideas. It is your article that makes me full of hope. Thank you. But, I have a question, can you help me?